You’ve seen it on Reddit. You’ve heard it on podcasts. You’ve read it on Feeld profiles between “sapiosexual” and “420 friendly.” But what the hell does GGG actually mean? No, it’s not a ghost emoji glitch. It’s not slang for grandma gangbangs (surprisingly). And it’s definitely not a new political party.
GGG was coined by Dan Savage, the patron saint of sex-positive chaos, and it basically describes someone who is down for pleasure, down for communication, and down to be a good human in bed. But let’s break it down Kat-style, because the internet loves overcomplicating things.
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💋 “Good” – As in… Be a Good Lover
Being “good” in the GGG trinity isn’t about Olympic-level technique. It’s not about being a porn star with abs that look Photoshopped. It’s about effort. It’s about awareness. It’s about actually giving a sh*t about your partner’s pleasure.
Good lovers listen. They adjust. They communicate. They don’t act confused about where the clit is located (please, for the love of everything holy, not again). They treat sex like a shared experience, not a solo Twitch stream happening inside your body.
🎁 "Giving" - As in... Generous to Your Partner's Needs
Giving means being generous – not a doormat, not a martyr, but someone who brings effort and intention into the bedroom. If you’re giving, you’re invested in mutual pleasure. You’re willing to do things that turn your partner on even if they aren’t your peak kink, because the joy of pleasing them turns you on too.
Giving lovers show enthusiasm. They offer reassurance. They check in. They make you feel like the hottest creature alive even when you’re wearing socks and holding a slice of pizza. It’s a vibe.
😈 “Game” – As in.. Down to Try New Things
This is the spicy one. Being “game” means you’re open-minded, curious, and willing to try new things within reason. It doesn’t mean saying yes to everything. It doesn’t mean pushing boundaries. It means you’re willing to explore, experiment, and communicate honestly about what excites you – even if it’s a little weird, a little kinky, or a little new. Just say yes!
Game people don’t shame, judge, or panic when a partner says, “Sooo… what do you think about butt plugs?” They lean in, ask questions, and explore without fear.
🔥 Why GGG Has Become the Gold Standard
GGG is basically the sex-positive holy trinity – be good at sex, be generous with your energy, and be game for exploration. It’s not about being a freak 24/7 – it’s about being open, ethical, communicative, and curious.
In the lifestyle, GGG is almost a prerequisite. If you’re rigid, selfish, closed-off, or terrified of trying anything outside missionary? You’re gonna have a bad time. GGG people thrive because they make everyone feel safe, sexy, and excited.
✅ Kat's Final Thoughts
GGG isn’t a kink. It’s a mindset. It’s a promise that you’re present, playful, open, and willing to meet your partner where they are. It’s a little overused on the apps, I’ll be honest… But at least it shows they are trying.
But honestly? If someone claims they’re GGG but gives the worst oral of your life? Report them to the Federal Communications Commission.
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Swinger Lingo (check Swinger Dictionary for more!)
GGG (Good, Giving, Game): Coined by Dan Savage, this one’s the holy trinity of being a rockstar in the bedroom. Be good in bed, giving to your partner’s pleasure, and game to try new things (within reason). If everyone followed GGG, the world would be a much happier, wetter place.
Compersion: The ultimate feel-good vibe in the world of non-monogamy, compersion is when seeing your partner’s pleasure brings a smile to your face and a flutter to your heart.
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