Okay people, real talk – I used to think squirting was one of those porn-only myths. Like, sure, everyone just happens to flood the sheets like a sexy human Super Soaker. But guess what? One night it actually happened to me (after much practice!). No camera crew, no fake moans – just me, Leo, and a couple of towels we laid down earlier. So if you’re curious, hopeful, or just downright determined to unlock your inner splash queen, buckle up. Here’s how I learned to squirt – and yes, you can too.
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🧼 Step 1: Ditch the Pressure & Embrace the Mess
Let’s start with the mindset, because if you’re clenched up worrying about whether your sheets are safe or if you’re gonna pee (you’re not), you’re not gonna get anywhere. This is your permission slip to:
Hydrate (seriously, drink a glass or two of water before)
Laugh if it gets weird
Let go of outcome (it’s about pleasure, not pressure)
Also, grab a towel. Or puppy pad. Or three. You’ll thank me later.
🔍 Step 2: Find the Damn G-Spot Already
The G-spot is about 1–2 inches inside your vagina, on the upper wall, toward your belly button. It feels slightly rougher or ridged, like a little spongey bump.
It’s not just a button. It’s a zone. A juicy, responsive one. 🍑
Have your partner:
Use their middle and ring fingers (because they’re the longest)
Slide them in while you’re lying on your back with your legs bent or open
Use plenty of lube and go slow at first
🖐️ Step 3: “Come Here” Stroke That Changed My Life
Now we get to the magic move. Once your partner’s fingers are inside and curved upward, here’s what they do.
👉 The stroke:
Curl fingers in a “come here” motion
Focus on firm, consistent pressure against the upper vaginal wall
Stroke back and forth (think: rhythmic, slow-medium tempo – not jackhammer). You can also try an up and down stroke
Don’t go too deep – it’s about 1–2 inches in, max
It might feel intense, odd, or like you need to pee. That’s normal. Breathe through it.
PRO TIP: Have your partner hook those fingers upward and stroke as if they’re massaging your G-spot with intention. Like they’re trying to coax a secret out of you. A secret splash, that is 💦
✨ Step 4: Clit Stimulation = Double Trouble Boost
While those fingers are working your G-spot, you – or a very generous partner – can add external clitoral stimulation. This could be:
👅 Their tongue
🍆 Magic Wand vibrator
✌ Your fingers
🌀 A well-placed grind
Trust me, the combo of clit + G-spot is where things get explosive (literally). And if your partner—or someone else (wink)—is already down there, they can take on mop-up duty for extra spice. Nothing says “I care” like a tongue-first cleanup crew.
💦 Step 5: Ride the Wave, Don’t Fight It
The moment of truth will feel like a growing, pressure-filled release – almost like you really have to pee. That’s when most people tense up and stop.
DON’T 🛑.
Embrace it and go with it
Keep breathing
Let your abs stay soft
Push outward, gently
Trust your body knows what it’s doing
And then… whoosh. Cue the floodgates. It might be a little dribble. It might be a tidal wave. Either way, it’s real. You did it. You squirted. 🎉
📝 Bonus Tips to Make It Even Easier
Angle up: Putting a pillow under your hips can help tilt your pelvis to the perfect angle.
Use a G-spot toy: Curved wands or glass dildos hit that spot with precision.
Solo practice: You can absolutely do this on your own – sometimes easier because there’s zero performance anxiety.
- Practice makes perfect: It took us many tries before Leo made me squirt. It wasn’t a one-and-done miracle. But hey, practicing is half the fun anyway.
Don’t fake it: Some people squirt, some don’t. It’s not a badge of worth. It’s just one delicious trick in your pleasure toolbox.
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💭 Final Thoughts
If it doesn’t happen right away? No stress. I didn’t squirt the first, second, or even third time. I had to relax, explore, and actually get out of my own head. But once it clicked… oh yea man, now it’s a party trick I break out like dessert after dinner.
So grab a towel, grab a toy (or a very patient partner), and get ready to redefine what “wet” means in your world. You got this, queen.
💋 Happy swinging!
Find all of this and more on this episode of our top-rated swingers podcast for new couples to the lifestyle, the Vanilla Swingers podcast!
Swinger Lingo (check Swinger Dictionary for more!)
Squirting: A wild, splashy explosion of female pleasure, turning the sheets into a thrill-soaked waterslide.
Oral sex: The tantalizing tease that gets hearts racing and pulses pounding, because who doesn’t love a little lip service? A sexual activity involving stimulation of the genitals using the mouth, tongue, and lips, often referred to as fellatio (for penis) or cunnilingus (for vulva).
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