Some people overpack. Others show up like it’s their first sleepover in high school. Don’t be either of them. Whether you’re headed to a swinger club or planning a private hotel meet-up, you want to come prepared, polished, and ready for whatever the night brings—with zero mood killers in your bag. Here’s your Kat-approved, Leo-reviewed, playtime-perfect packing list.
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Sexy Basics: The Undergarments of Bad Decisions
Start with the obvious – what’s underneath should make you feel fabulous. You don’t need a full lingerie wardrobe, although Kat never leaves home without several, including a Schoolgirl outfit, just saying. Really, just one or two sets that fit well and feel amazing. Outfit changes mid-play are so fun! Think:
A matching bra & panty set (lace, mesh, or crotchless = chef’s kiss)
Something easy to take off (or leave on)
For the guys: fitted boxer briefs or something that says “I put in 2% effort and still look hot”
Bring a spare set too – because things get sweaty, and you may want to freshen up mid-night or if you’re getting a little sleepover action.
Hotel Room Glow-Up, Kat & Leo Style
Sure, what’s in your bag matters – but so does where you unpack it. If your night leads to a hotel, don’t settle for harsh lighting and sad beige linens. We always bring a few small but mighty essentials to turn any basic hotel room into a full-on sex den. Always! Think LED mood rope lights, a strobe light, a Bluetooth speaker for a seductive playlist. It’s part seduction, part set design—and it makes the whole experience feel 10x hotter. Want the full room glow-up guide? We got you covered right here.
Sleepover Vibes: Just in Case
If there’s even a 10% chance you’re not going home, pack like an adult who likes to wake up sexy, not scrambled.
Clean underwear (morning-after breath is bad – morning-after commando is worse, or maybe hot?!)
A soft tee or pajama top
Toothbrush, mini deodorant, and a travel-size face wipe
Mouthwash or Listerine dissolving breath strips
A small pouch of makeup basics if you wear it – mascara, lip tint, concealer
Hygiene = Hot
Sexy people smell good. Sexy people also wash their bits, especially right before a play encounter. A little shampoo down yonder is refreshingly sweet! Here’s your hygiene starter kit:
Body wipes – for mid-party refreshes (especially if you’re bouncing from club to hotel)
Toy cleaner wipes – because clean toys = classy toys
Hand sanitizer – because you’re gonna be touching… everything
Lube – water-based and silicone-based, travel-sized
Condoms – in multiples, of different types and sizes. Don’t count on someone else having them. Costco here we come!
Menstrual cups or makeup sponges – the cycle works in mysterious ways. Diva cups and the makeup sponge trick do the trick to keep play going!
The Sexy Go-Bag: Playroom Ready
Whether it’s a club locker or a hotel nightstand, you want your essentials in reach.Your swinger go-bag should include:
Condoms (yes, again. Can’t stress this enough)
Lube (still yes)
Small towel or dark washcloth
Hair tie or clip (because it always gets hot and wild)
Toy of choice – vibes, plugs, whatever gets you buzzing
Sexy mints or flavored lip balm
A travel-sized body spray, light perfume/cologne, deodorant
Bonus item? Flip flops or slides. No one wants to be barefoot in a club shower or dragging their Louboutins across a sticky hotel floor.
Things to Skip
Not everything belongs in your bag. Leave these behind:
That giant sex toy with its own power supply. It’s not a flex, it’s a fire hazard.
Perfume bombs that knock people out before you undress. Think seduce, not suffocate.
Extra drama or jealousy – those should’ve stayed in the group chat.
Bottom Line
Swinger nights don’t have to be chaotic—you just need to pack with purpose. Whether you’re headed to a hotel room for one-on-one play or hitting the club for some sultry group action, having the right items on hand means you’re confident, comfortable, and completely ready to be the unforgettable experience someone writes about in their group chat. Now zip up that bag (but not for long) – you’ve got places to be and people to seduce. And if you’re lucky, keep that bag packed as a spontaneous hotel rendezvous could happen at any time.
💋 Happy swinging!
Find all of this and more on this episode of our top-rated swingers podcast for new couples to the lifestyle, the Vanilla Swingers podcast!
Swinger Lingo (check Swinger Dictionary for more!)
Bareback: Riding into pleasure without a saddle – because sometimes, it’s more fun to feel every bump along the way! A term used to describe sexual intercourse without the use of a condom.
DDF: The golden ticket to the swinging world, declaring “drug and disease free” for worry-free encounters, commonly used on online apps. Not to be confused with DTF (down-to-fuck), which they probably are also.
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